I see relationships everywhere. Every communication has a potential to be a relationship. That’s how relationships start don’t they? Some mode of exchange…Virtual ….Real! these days virtual more than real. When I met Laura she was uneasy, occupied and not the fun filled friend I always meet. On prodding a bit she burst like a bubble, among the many things she said some really bit me hard. I am not a person to get into personal details so I just let her speak what she felt like sharing.
“Was my understanding of love wrong? Wasn’t love about trust, unwavering, unfaltering trust?” Laura broke into words after a sob.
“Yes it is” I comforted.
“What if it is broken? Not once or twice but many times over?” she looked at me with a question.
“It depends Laura, if you feel it would happen again, you can redeem that trust, but if you think you can let that go, you can try.” I held her hand.
She nodded, “ I agree.” “Do I expect more? Is my understanding of love different?”
It touched me the most. Love doesn’t let you question yourself and your being on such basic, fundamental things and here she was trying to get MY opinion on HER love.
Love is beautiful, it’s ways are different but Love isn’t different. For a couple working in shifts, seeing a postit on the fridge saying, ‘Dinner together outside, rest this evening’ is love. For my parents my pa making morning tea for my ma is love, it is different for all.
“No Laura, noone’s understanding of Love can be wrong or different. It needs to match the same chords as the partner which will play a melody. Expectation, well I am a person who expects but only from those who understand me. And I would never change that expectation of communication of love, that expression of togetherness, in this face paced world it is even more important.” I paused.
“What love isn’t ….is a set of conditions, dos and don’t of a relationship and if that creeps in then it is just a word with no emotions. So don’t change any of yourself and Love More and Expect Still. Hope and Faith bring back loved ones.
Her eyes met mine and it conveyed easier said than done. True but Love isn’t Fast Food Either!
Good one!
Thank you 🙂
How true love more expect still. Aptly and beautifully.
so true Chaitali, thank you for dropping by 🙂
This is a very deep post Shweta, lots to think about. You put its essence very in a manner simply to understand, but it is certainly the key for a good relationship. Thank you 🙂
thank you so much, yes love itself is deep, happy you liked it 🙂
Conditional love isn’t love..it is an arrangement of convenience. Isn’t it?! You have very well put forward the perspective on love and expectations, Shweta.
so rightly said Bushra, our thoughts resonate, happy you liked it 🙂
Bushra has summed it up well. Well written Shweta.. 🙂
🙂 thank you 🙂
Love is instinctive and that can never be changed. expectations are bubbles they will burst one day. Love is within us….loved reading your piece and was missing “Ananya”
Ananya will be back soon with a fantastic fiction in tow 🙂
Very well written Shweta.
You are very matured in your thoughts and expression.
Experiences make us what we are Indrani, happy you liked it 🙂
its really very nice post. Good thinking and realization.
Thank you, happy you liked it 🙂
There’s a difference between love and lover. They aren’t same. Stick to love not lover and you’ll never be broken. 🙂
So rightly said, the feeling of love is much superior than the attachment of a lover.
perfect
🙂
Awesome one dear 🙂
Thank you Anjali 🙂
Brilliant!
Thank you 🙂
Such a beautiful take on love. Loved the fluidity of expressions. Very well written dear 🙂
Thank you Maitreni, glad you liked it 🙂
There’s expectation in life but for love, it meets the same. Beautiful write up
Yes it does, happy you liked it Jeevan 🙂
Wonderful write up Shweta.
Cheers,
Sriram & Krithiga
Thank you Krithiga 🙂
This is another wonderful write-up from you, bestie…short and sweet… 🙂
Thank you so much bestie, really happy you liked it 🙂
Beautifully expressed Shweta. I hope your friend finds true happiness in relationships which will never let her question herself.
Absolutely, love should never lead to questioning ourselves..thank you for liking it 🙂
great one, I faced the same question more than once . I wonder can anyone really understand love,
no matter the experiences never lose faith and trust in love, giving more is the only way 🙂
Relationships, love, and all needs your patience. Understanding, time and importance. They always come with a handle with care tag.
Nicely expressed
Hope the best for your friend!!
You so rightly said time…but who has the time and that’s where the problem starts, isn’t it.
“What love isn’t ….is a set of conditions”
So true! Loved your thoughts, Shweta. Admire your understanding of love 🙂
Experiences make us what we are, happy you liked it Purba 🙂
Love is unconditional and even small things like a post-it can work wonders 🙂 Very well written !
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Thank you so much, glad you liked it 🙂
Great one Shweta..)
Thank you so much 🙂
Another wonderful one, Shweta! 🙂
Thank you Amitji 🙂
Are expectations termites for any relationship?
Like always I am die hard follower of you
sunshineandzephyr and this too is awesome..
Hi,
Nice article. Thank you.
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Thank you Kamal 🙂
Beautifully penned 🙂
thanks
Nice Article.
Thank you so much 🙂
Love is limitless with no conditions. If dos n don’ts creep in, yes, it’s jus a word with no emotion. And there’s no point in such relationship. Awesome write-up Shweta.
Thank you Meera, so rightly said 🙂
Shweta, it’s important to understand that people don’t disappoint us. Our expectations of them do.
the day we stop expecting we find the real way to live Lata 🙂
Expectation is the root cause of all issues in our lives! Great read, again!
Nice one Shweta!
This is a neat summray. Thanks for sharing!