I see relationships everywhere. Every communication has a potential to be a relationship. That’s how relationships start don’t they? Some mode of exchange…Virtual ….Real! these days virtual more than real. When I met Laura she was uneasy, occupied and not the fun filled friend I always meet. On prodding a bit she burst like a bubble, among the many things she said some really bit me hard. I am not a person to get into personal details so I just let her speak what she felt like sharing.
“Was my understanding of love wrong? Wasn’t love about trust, unwavering, unfaltering trust?” Laura broke into words after a sob.
“Yes it is” I comforted.
“What if it is broken? Not once or twice but many times over?” she looked at me with a question.
“It depends Laura, if you feel it would happen again, you can redeem that trust, but if you think you can let that go, you can try.” I held her hand.
She nodded, “ I agree.” “Do I expect more? Is my understanding of love different?”
It touched me the most. Love doesn’t let you question yourself and your being on such basic, fundamental things and here she was trying to get MY opinion on HER love.
Love is beautiful, it’s ways are different but Love isn’t different. For a couple working in shifts, seeing a postit on the fridge saying, ‘Dinner together outside, rest this evening’ is love. For my parents my pa making morning tea for my ma is love, it is different for all.
“No Laura, noone’s understanding of Love can be wrong or different. It needs to match the same chords as the partner which will play a melody. Expectation, well I am a person who expects but only from those who understand me. And I would never change that expectation of communication of love, that expression of togetherness, in this face paced world it is even more important.” I paused.
“What love isn’t ….is a set of conditions, dos and don’t of a relationship and if that creeps in then it is just a word with no emotions. So don’t change any of yourself and Love More and Expect Still. Hope and Faith bring back loved ones.
Her eyes met mine and it conveyed easier said than done. True but Love isn’t Fast Food Either!